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My grief armory 1

Apr

12

2013

Every day I am learning more about the constant companion grief. Sometimes there are revelations. I recently recognized that grief is like an armory, maybe even an arsenal. It can be a weapon, like a sword it can hurt and drive people away in fear. Or it can be a shield that I can wrap ...

When the dying protect the living 3

Apr

8

2013

“How do you start dying all the while trying to make sure that it is the living who will be okay?” This is a quote from Shane Koyczan from a poem he read at a Canuck Place Gala. I encourage you to watch the video. It is just 7 minutes long, but reveals volumes of ...

Nightmare or beacon of love 1

Mar

24

2013

Many bereaved parents seem to experience the same thing: after they lose a child, their social life changes significantly. And I am not simply talking about going into hiding, avoiding groups of people or staying away from fun events and activities. This is likely true for anyone who grieves the loss of a loved one. ...

The strong don’t cry? 4

Mar

20

2013

I’ve been thinking about this post for a while and when the topic came up at our support group yesterday I decided to put my thoughts together. It’s about crying and being strong (as the title might suggest…). People sometimes say to us “You are so strong”. Depending on the situation I really don’t like ...

A Place to Remember 1

Mar

16

2013

Kerstin and I have long thought about the question if we need a place to remember our children. We even brought up the topic in our support group. After several weeks of pondering our conclusion was that we don’t have to have a place to remember them. They are always with us. However, we come ...

Signs or coincidence 1

Mar

15

2013

Today is the second anniversary of our son’s death. Like last year we will be lighting floating lanterns for him tonight with our close friends. At his first anniversary we were watching the lanterns when a marvelous shooting star appeared. We like to think of it as a sign. Don’t get me wrong. I have ...

Happy Birthday 4

Mar

13

2013

Two years ago our first son Marlon was born. Today we acknowledge and honor him like every year. We do this very much like any other family would: with candles, balloons, cake and a tradition. It is a painful day as it reminds us of what we have lost. We miss him so much and ...

One month since launch

Mar

8

2013

This website has been actively in use for 1 month now which means it is time for a brief review. I cannot believe that it has only been a couple of months since I first started to develop this site. It feels much longer right now. An important thing I learned is that writing takes ...

Of beasts and bad guys 3

Mar

5

2013

It is becoming very apparent to me that men grieve differently than women. This might not be such a groundbreaking discovery given that men are different from women in so many ways, but how we deal with pain and grief is sometimes more different than I would have expected. Some women express concern for their ...

Baby Big Brother – One born every minute 1

Feb

26

2013

One headline in the German rainbow press caught my eye today. It talked about a new reality TV series a private channel planned and was dubbed as Baby Big Brother. Apparently, the channel intended to install 30 cameras in the maternity ward of a hospital to produce a show that brings the reality of pregnancy ...