I was browsing the internet and came across a petition to change the law regarding birth certificates in several US states. In fact, there are a number of sources talking about the same topic (1, 2, 3). This brought back a lot of memories. When our son Marlon died, we applied for a birth certificate ...

At the end of last week we received a computer-generated card from Kerstin’s employers HR department. It read: “We would like to take this opportunity to wish you every joy and happiness with the arrival of the newest member of your family”. Well, what shall I say. We were not as upset as you might ...

The first BC Family Day is upon us, making this weekend a long weekend at the beginning of February dedicated to families. What is great news for some might not be so great for others. Holidays are always hard for bereaved parents. Some more than others, such as Christmas and Thanksgiving. Each one of them ...

Sometimes I have some thoughts go through my head and I feel I should write them down. Writing things down can help to order and to make sense of them. I guess this is one of such posts. I am not entirely sure what I am trying to say, so I will just write away ...

My wife and I went back to our support group for the first time today since Tobias died. Going back has been difficult. It kind of meant we are back in the hole. When we got pregnant with Tobias and stopped going to the group, we had some level of control back in our lives, ...

Canadians will be very familiar with the Idle No More movement these days. I was reading about it in the news while I browsed various websites about child loss. I noticed a recurring trend that very much reflected my personal feelings. In the Wikipedia article about Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day the New Brunswick ...

Initially, I only wanted to create this website to communicate our ideas about support networks or services that could be improved or offered to bereaved parents. Some people encouraged me to write down some personal thoughts as well. I considered creation of a separate personal blog to do this, but then it occured to me ...

I had this feeling after our first son Marlon died. And now I have this feeling again after our second son Tobias was stillborn. Something needs to happen and it feels as if I have to do something. It is hard to describe this urge to be active without knowing what exactly one is supposed ...